A year and a half ago I wasn’t even in the mood to go for a walk. It took every bit of motivation I had to walk my little seventeen pound dog around the block. Sunday I finished Rugged Maniac, my second mud run in six months. My time wasn’t record-setting. While the volunteers were yelling to keep your head down through the barbed-wire my ass was up and catching on it. I didn’t run up any hills. But I DID it and I have a multitude of bruises to prove it! And possibly a concussion from getting nailed in the head coming down the incredibly long and scream-producing slide (I still love you, Meg!).
So how did I go from binge-watching twelve seasons of Grey’s Anatomy to a badass obstacle course race? I have an amazing support system of friends. It’s not that most of them weren’t there before, but I tapped in and found the power that surrounding yourself with the right people and positive energy can have on your life.
Many people don’t realize just how much of an introvert I am because I am often on-the-go and hanging out with friends. I have friends from middle school that I still consider best friends. We don’t see each other often, but when we do it’s best if any shopping carts aren’t left lying around because we will find a hill and video tape ourselves riding tear ass down it, shrieking, and crashing in a heap of metal and laughter. After our time together I find myself thankful for the fact that Facebook or YouTube were not around back in the day. I still have friends post-high school and pre-children. My married years, all wonderful, not-dripping-with-sarcasm-in-the-least, twelve years of them I’m not sure if I was just busy raising my children or if I was purposefully avoiding close relationships. I can honestly say those were some of the loneliest years of my life. In the thirteen years that I’ve been on my own I have found life-changing friendships, both male and female. Although being around a lot of people is tough sometimes for me I found that ensuring I find time to nourish and treasure those friendships have been a game-changer.
All of these friendships have forged bonds that have kept me wanting to wake up in the morning. They have inspired me to be more social, to be more active, to not be afraid of venturing out on my own, to believe in myself, and that I am worthy. These are not things that come easily to me. These people lift me up on the days when I find I can’t even stand on my own and they probably have no idea that they are doing it. I have been working on trying to show gratitude more and if I haven’t to you yet and you are one of my people please allow me to do so here.
“I value your place in my world. I would not be me without you and your part in my journey.”
For those young girls that refer to their friends as “bitches” or “hoes”, please stop. The world is full of enough negativity, criticism, and disappointment. We never know what others are going through and that all it might take is one word of encouragement to help them keep their head up that day. I know that it got me from Grey’s to Rugged.